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Agony Auncle: Get your head in the game

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Content warning: this article discusses sex.

Question: How do I give good head (to a vagina)?

Answer: First of all, make sure you listen to the person you are going down on! Everyone is different, so what feels good to one person could be terrible for someone else. As always, ask for consent beforehand. Communicating with your partner is essential for both of you to have fun. How can you know what feels good for them if you never ask?

Some examples of things you could ask your partner:

  • What sorts of movements feel good? (Circular, side to side, up and down)
  • Do they prefer a fast or slow pace?
  • Do they like hard or gentle pressure?
  • Do they enjoy a combination/variety of the above?
  • Would they like you to use your hands as well?

Whilst there’s no hard and fast rule for giving good head, DO NOT spell out the alphabet with your tongue. I’m pretty sure no one has ever enjoyed receiving that. (If you have, let me know! Whatever floats your boat, no judgement here.)

Finally, always practice safe sex. You can still contract an STI from giving and receiving oral! Get tested regularly, make sure your hands are clean and use dental dams when going down on someone.

Have fun, I wish you all the best with your oral endeavours!

-Agony Auncle

Disclaimer: I am not a professional, just a student giving out advice for fun. I don’t claim any responsibility for the outcomes of the situations submitted to me.

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